Love

#Posttwo

Few days back I heard a podcast named 'Philosophize this' the host talks about the writer Eric fromm and his book "The art of loving". According to Eric 'Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the human existence'. He compares love to an art, which requires the artist to show up each day with unending patience and passion. Most people look at love like a transaction, in which each person provides the other what they are looking for. They are co-dependant, maintaining a symbiotic type of relationship. Eric says this form of love is a narcissistic one, where we uphold our ego and look for what benefits us the most.

Loving someone for what they provide us, or how people commonly opine as being partners they complete each others life, this form is the most immature love. He further says loving someone with a hope that they never change or loving someone with hopes of changing them later according to your own benefits is a senseless pursue, when change is the only constant in each of our lives.

Love is a choice, a choice you make every day, irrespective of the outcomes, gains or any other logical thing you can come for loving someone. You need to love a person for who he/she is, not for what they were or what they can be. Neither should it be based on what they provide you or because you complete their needs. 

This kind of love is only possible when you feel complete as an individual, when you have enough self love so that the same love when flows, every person you meet can't help but get drenched. So you choose to love a person each day, irrespective of your moods, the external factors and most importantly you do so without expecting anything in return.

This concept of Eric fromm about love is quite intriguing and his books are on my reading list and I can't wait to dive in more into his philosophy about different life matters.

#Milliandme

So I know love, well I had been thinking so till now. Witnessing different kinds, I was pretty much sure I had experienced the true one atleast once, and boy was I utterly wrong.

Not caring for self, putting the other person's need first, being on the pedestal, I was a champion in that until few days back when things changed and I made a decision to choose to love 'Milli" every single day.

I always felt I'm a dog person, i wanted to adopt a puppy since ages. Cats where never on the list. But this fine weekend evening I found Milli, a three weeks old mixed breed street kitten, almost starving and helplessly waiting for her mother to come back to her rescue. It appears her mother had given her up for reasons best known to her, as Milli was seen at the same spot since last two days. May be her mother felt Milli was too weak for this deadly vicious world and or may be she was too reluctant to spend extra time nursing this poor baby.

So we brought Milli home, fed her, gave her good place to rest on her first day. Starting from the next day we ( me and my sisters ) researched everything on cats and gave her the best comfort and care we were capable of. In no time my motherly instinct aroused and reached its peak.

It happens to be I hopelessly love this baby who's not my own, who bites, scratches me all over, who i need to stimulate to pee, poop, then clean, bathe, who I know I can expect nothing in return and I am also completely fine if I have to let her go if her mom turns up for her one day.

I had plans of adopting a child in future, as I feel a kid is more of what his/her environment is rather than their genes, and there already are numerous children who need love and care, I don't want to burdenup this planet any further with my own genes. It doesn't make any sense to me. 

But falling in love with this baby of a cat was something entirely unpredictable. And I have been searching for this kind of love since eternity and I confess I never have been this happy my entire life. Many more such happy days await me and milli.

Cheers!! 8)

P.S : Who can help but not fall in love with her! 

My cute baby 😘